Save My Marriage Today by Amy Waterman
Five years ago, I sat down with fellow relationship expert Andrew Rusbatch to write what would become one of my best-loved books of all time.
Save My Marriage Today was already an established brand, and I was brought on board to create a completely new course that would help couples on the verge of divorce turn things around and get back on the path to love and commitment.
It was an awesome responsibility. After all, not even scientists and counselors have been able to create a foolproof roadmap to a long-lasting marriage, although many have tried. Dr. John Gottman says that it's about the ratio of negative interactions to positive interactions. Dr. Harville Hendrix says it's about healing one another from childhood wounds. Dr. Phil says it's about common sense.
So why do couples still struggle, if there's so much good advice out there?
Is it because they don't know about these people?
Or do they prefer to figure out their marriage through experience rather than from a book?
Or is it just that reading can't help a situation that's gone from bad to worse?
My Heart Goes Out...
I can't express how deeply I empathize with those of you going through marriage difficulties.
Your marriage is the one thing that's meant to sustain you through hard times. It's not supposed to create those hard times.
Your spouse is the one person who's supposed to be with you always and forever, your best friend, the one you can talk to about anything. You're not supposed to feel lonely and shut out.
You and your spouse are supposed to be on the same team, working together, supporting one another in your goals. You're not supposed to be adversaries who can't trust each other.
When you're a mess because your relationship is in shambles, the last thing you need is some good doctor telling you what to do.
You don't have time to waste on understanding some theory when what you need is to show the love of your life that there's still life left in your marriage. You're not ready to give up. You know you were meant to be together.
But what can you do when you've already done everything you could think of?
Go to the Save My Marriage Today! Official Website.
That's Where Save My Marriage Today! Comes In
A lot of people don't realize that Save My Marriage Today! isn't just by me. It's a collaborative effort between me and my friend and colleague, Andrew Rusbatch.
Andrew is the kind of guy that friends go to when they need answers. He's been doing email consultations for years. He's seen enough relationships come and go that he's got a good sense of what they need to last for the long haul.
We did the research, and the emails we got from couples in marriage crises told us what we needed to address.
It became obvious to us that the way many couples reacted to problems in their marriage actually made things worse.
When the one person you've ever loved tells you that he/she no longer wants to be with you, you go a little crazy. You do stupid things that make your spouse even more determined to stay away from you. But you can't see it, because you're desperate to fix whatever went wrong.
We saw our course like an oxygen mask: put it on, breathe deeply, breathe again ... and your head starts to clear. You start to see what you've been doing wrong. You start to see why your spouse isn't making things easy for you.
And you start to put things right in your own life, because you finally understand that you have the power to change your relationship, NOT by convincing your spouse to give your marriage a second chance, but by changing yourself.
What Is In the Save My Marriage Today! Course?
The real key of the Save My Marriage Today! system is the exercises.
Each chapter concludes with a series of exercises. You can do them on your own or with a partner. They're really, really important, because thinking about your marriage differently won't get you very far ... not unless you also start to act differently. Sad to say, but reading a book never solved anyone's problems.
Doing the exercises not only shows your commitment to looking at the underlying issues in your marriage, but they also start to open your eyes and change how you act around your spouse. That's what your spouse needs.
If your spouse is on the verge of leaving, it's important to remember that the person your spouse wants to leave is the OLD you ... the person you've been for the last five or ten years. You've got a very short window of time to change, and Save My Marriage Today! will help you do it. Hopefully, our exercises will get you changing those old habits and creating new ones. You're going to surprise your spouse!
When your spouse looks at you and thinks, "This isn't the same person I remember," a shift will take place. A gap of uncertainty will open up. In that gap, miracles are possible.
Did You Know?
In response to the issues raised in his consultations, Andrew decided to write a second book: Save My Marriage Today! Book 2 - For Marriages in Extreme Crisis. This book includes advice for couples who've already separated or begun divorce proceedings, couples who are so far estranged that they can barely talk to each other anymore. If you're no longer living with your spouse, jump immediately to this book - included free in the Members Area.
Are You Ready to Make a Change in Your Marriage?
I wish that every couple could get a free copy of Save My Marriage Today! on the day they get married.
We need this kind of information. How are we expected to get married and then live happily ever after with no relationship training whatsoever? Where's the marriage manual that tells us what to do if X goes wrong?
It's my hope that Save My Marriage Today! will become that manual for thousands more couples across the globe. It's already touched so many lives. Are you ready to let it change yours?
